A Father’s Day Message to All the Fathers Touched by Adoption

Father’s Day is a special time for us to honor all the men in our lives who helped to make us who we are today – those who raised us and those who gave us life. There is no single definition of a father; no single word that buckets all fathers together. Every father (and father-to-be) has a story. Whether you are father by birth or by adoption, or even just setting out on your adoption journey to become a dad, you deserve some recognition and love on this special occasion.

Here at Adoptions With Love, we recognize the work, care, and sacrifice needed to become a great dad. Well, Dad, this one is for you. Here, we will acknowledge the many different roles that men take on when it comes to helping create or raise a family.

For the Adoptive Fathers: You are the Real Deal!

Dads are men who parent and raise a child, no matter the biological connection. DNA does not factor into the complex and joyous role that is being a true “dad.” Adoptive fathers (or simply, fathers) make the profound decision to care for a child and love him/her with every resource possible. From the financial commitment to emotional support and guidance, adoptive fathers help their children grow into incredible adults. Father’s Day is certainly a day for you, adoptive dad. You are part of the reason your child is so happy, so engaged, and so spirited.

Adoptions With Love has the rare opportunity to meet with prospective adoptive families much like yours, and to discuss the hopes and dreams of the parents looking to adopt. We often hear from waiting adoptive dads who look forward to playing ball in the backyard, taking the family on road trips, and making memories to last a lifetime.

In fact, Adoptions With Love recently heard from one father who adopted an infant son through our agency. In an open letter to his son, Ben, he shared:

“Your Mom and I often lay in bed at night and talk about how lucky we are. Of course, we did not plan to have years of struggle starting a family.  We did our best to stay positive, optimistic and committed to our family plan. I will never forget the day we received the call and the day we first met. These are memories I will treasure forever. You have enriched our lives in ways that neither your Mom nor I could have ever imagined.”

It is clear to see that the love this father has for Ben is real, and that he is just as much as father as anyone else raising a child. You can read his full letter here.

For the Dads Waiting to Adopt: Let the Journey Begin!

For the men who are amid the adoption process and/or awaiting your child to be matched with you: Your job has already begun. You will soon become a role model to this growing person who will forever look up to you for guidance and support. Adoption is a beautiful, yet often long and winding journey, full of peaks and valleys. You deserve to be celebrated on Father’s Day as much as those men already playing the part.

“If there’s anyone out there who is trying and they’re just losing hope…just hang in there. Try every avenue; try anything you can do, because you’ll get there. You’ll end up with a family, and it’s so worth it. It is the most ‘worth it’ thing.” – Jimmy Fallon.

For those hopeful fathers just starting the adoption journey, Adoptions With Love can help guide you through the adoption process. Our caring staff will sit down with you to get to know your family, and to talk about your hopes and needs as well as Massachusetts’ adoption requirements. We will help you navigate everything from the home study and application process to the adoption finalization in court. We also provide post-adoption counseling for adoptive families, and have a dedicated eBook about the Massachusetts adoption process.

For the Fathers Who Helped Make an Adoption Plan

While Birth Father’s Day is not an official day, you should know that you are irreplaceable in your child’s life. You are an inherent piece of your child. You helped bring a beautiful child into this world – and provided him/her the opportunity to be raised by an amazing family with an abundance of love to give. The fact of the matter is simple: You lovingly made an adoption plan to ensure your child has the best possible life, even if it was not with you and his/her birth mother. Making an adoption plan is one of the most courageous and selfless acts a father can do for his child.  The profound importance of this impacts your   child and his or her adoptive parents. The adoptive parents are eternally grateful for your role in completing their family. You deserve recognition and celebration on this Father’s Day, for helping to make a family come together.

Father’s Day for All the Dads

Great dads of all walks of life – no matter their role – should be celebrated on Father’s Day. Whether you are an adoptive father, a prospective adoptive father, or a birth father who made an adoption plan – you are a hero! You play an important role in a child’s life and help shape who they will become as an adult. Be proud of your position in this incredible journey.

Adoptions With Love supports all fathers looking to adopt or make an adoption plan. Please reach out to our caring staff any time at 1-800-722-7731, text us confidentially at 1-617-777-0072, or email us at info@awlonline.org.